Death Conversations

Death Conversations (based on Death Cafes) offer a safe and caring place to talk about what’s on your mind and heart about the end of life––the end of your life and the end of your loved ones’ lives. 

A participant volunteers to speak briefly about what comes up for them when they think about the end of life. The next person might continue with the same topic, or might raise another. Group members express their thoughts, feelings, concerns, and questions about death. Meetings have no planned agendas or topics, and no expected outcomes.

Death Conversations will be held monthly on Fridays and Saturdays, with a limit of 10 participants. Our 2025 Death Conversation schedule:

Saturday, April 26, 8 to 10 am Pacific

Friday, May 23, 4 to 6 pm Pacific

Saturday, June 28, 8 to 10 am Pacific

Friday, July 25, 4 to 6 pm Pacific

To RSVP for Death Conversations, please complete this form – https://forms.gle/L2qiXjy3G6nhLT5FA

To ensure a relaxed time for sharing, we plan to limit attendance to 10 participants at each gathering. Priority will be given to those who haven’t previously attended a Trillium Death Conversation. Once we reach 10 registrations for a date, a wait list will be created for that date.

If you aren’t sure if you registered previously, feel free to register again.

We’ll send a confirmation email and Zoom link soon after you register.

If you have any questions, please email Sara Perry (sara3perry@gmail.com).

Rotating meeting facilitators will include End of Life Work Group members and Cielle Backstrom.

End of Life Work Group
Sara Perry, Gena Netten, Deborah Boyar, and June Konopka

Death Conversations at a Glance

A Death Conversation Is:

  • A safe, respectful place to talk about the end of life.
  • A place where someone volunteers to speak about what’s up for them with regard to the end of life. The next person can continue that topic, or bring up something else.
  • Like a Trillium sitting, with guidelines for interaction (e.g., no unsolicited advice, fixing, or problem solving).

A Death Conversation Is Not:

  • A grief support group or group counseling session.
  • A group with objectives, agendas, themes, or presentations.
  • A place where you might feel pressured to change your beliefs or orientation.

Suggestion Box

As part of our initiative to be more connected with our whole community, we feel it would be helpful for us to receive feedback and suggestions from everyone. Suggestions could include:

  • Community Initiatives you would like to see
  • Feedback about Community calls or current Initiatives
  • General comments about the Trillium Awakening Community and how we can improve
  • Bring our attention to issues or dynamics we may not be aware of
  • Expressing your desire to participate in the Community Building work

Suggestions will only be seen by the Community Working Group and will not be made available to the Teachers Circle or Community unless otherwise specific. If brought to other people, all suggestions will remain anonymous.

Submit your suggestions here.